Why Do Good Marriages Fail?
Here is what I uncovered for my clients and myself –
The most common reason for relationship failures is;
You do NOT SAY what you need!
In fact you think he or she should know what you need. Then you blame your partner for not knowing.
Some of you may not know HOW TO SAY what you need, and you may raise your voice or you may go silent. You may prefer not to speak at all.
Most people do not know what they need, all they know is that they are no longer happy. You may feel hurt, sad, and lonely and you may not know why. You may be thinking that your partner does not understand or not care. Or you may express your needs in a tone that expresses anger and deepens the pain even further. That is the beginning of conflict and resentment.
You are now frustrated, upset, and you feel unheard, stuck and unappreciated. Unresolved and unspoken conflict is often the reason for upset.
The vicious cycle of upset and resentment starts right here.
In my experience, good marriages and relationships fall apart for that very reason as resentment builds up over time.
Here starts my work as a relationship coach. I teach and coach you the relationship skills that will support you during rough times and you will learn the communication and self-awareness skills that will last a lifetime.
Here is the thing, if you are not expanding, learning and shifting, you are drifting, in fact you are drifting apart. What is unsaid becomes unbearable over time and you collapse under the burden. Burnout or divorce is inevitable.
We have blind spots i.e. you cannot see what I see or other people see, thus you will keep doing what you are doing.
Together we will uncover your deepest desires, needs and core values and you will learn how to claim those needs powerfully. It is never too late and you are never too old.
If you come to the conclusion that you are not a match, or no longer a match and that it would be best to complete this relationship, you have the option to leave with LOVE. Completing with LOVE, provides you with the power and energy to move on with your life and find new love. The tools you will have acquired will last a lifetime.
Hello, my name is Sylvia Stauffer, Relationship and Leadership Coach. The profound lessons I learned during my marriage and my bitter divorce after 33 years of marriage, plus the transformative and intensive years of training as a leadership coach, prepared me to be the relationship expert I am today.
I left my marriage in midlife, after dabbing in human potential programs for years, however training as a coach opened my eyes to not only my blind spots and my struggles, but to solutions and skills on how to approach the breakdowns. Conclusion; you can learn the skills to create or recreate magic and joy in life and all your relationships.
Today, I am a relentless trainer and coach; I coach, educate and inspire you to be the leader, to use the art of communication and self-discovery to manifest love, to transform your way of being, and create passion and peace in your marriage or relationship. You will learn to practice self-care and self-love, and you will learn to communicate for results.
My methodology is easy, efficient and effective.
It takes a coach to speak to your reality, to shake up old patterns and help you uncover what you cannot see. It is never too late to save your marriage, even if your partner checked out. Give your marriage a chance!
Women and men like you, moms, dads, professionals, executives, models, and opera singers, have worked with me, and during our coaching process did save their marriage and/or created extraordinary, magical and fulfilling relationships in just a short time by applying my proven process. They have recreated feeling valued, loved, accepted and appreciated.
I was born and raised in the mountains of Switzerland, got married to the love of my life and created an amazing life with my then husband and lived in South America. In 1982 we moved to New York, where we raised our 3 amazing sons.
Today, together with my beloved, I have created my new life in the mountains of Colorado, and live a balanced life, enjoying my relationship, my family, outdoor adventures, music, art, travel, hobbies, and my career as a coach. I am fulfilled, happy and living the life of my dreams.
I want this for you too!
Relationship and Leadership Coach